Louisa Chua practicing violin
Kenyataan itu membuat banyak orang—terutama di Amerika—terusik. Standar kesuksesan anak Amy seolah menjadikan mereka sebagai orang tua yang gagal. Di samping itu, mereka menganggap profesor hukum dari Yale University kejam terhadap anak. Sebab, ibu yang menikah dengan pria Yahudi itu mengekang kedua putrinya dari kehidupan sosial. Mereka tak memiliki pengalaman menginap di rumah teman, pergi pesta, atau ikut pementasan drama.
- There's no such one-size-fits-all parenting. Different strokes for different folks.
- We are all very defensive when it comes to our parenting style. Showing displeasure on the less than par performance of our children is not being too hard but is sometimes necessary to remind them how good they really are.
- This brings us to the next insight: Sometimes poverty and hardships give us the competitive edge. The book talks about the children of migrant parents who start as outcasts and whose parents work so hard to have a good life in the USA (like Chua’s parents). Their being outcasts and their parents’ constant reminder that they are sacrificing to give them the best opportunities rub on them positively and consequently result to highly successful students.
- The more global we become the more we should make sure our children know their roots. Knowing where they came from, their family and cultural traditions may make them “weird” in the eyes of “mainstream kids” but this “weirdness” will actually become their unique qualities which will give them the competitive advantage someday, enabling them to contribute more to this global society.
but becoming the best persons we parents can be.